Path of Possibilities

As a girl I was brought up pretty independently by my parents…My father unconventionally always took a pride of teaching me ways an means to be self-determining, make choices free of any haste, boundation. When I say unconventionally, it’s because of the place where I belong to, it is not very natural phenomenon practiced by all fathers.
However, as a kid, I never enjoyed these powers coz they made me always had a feeling that my parents never cared for me…and that was a persistent only area of complaint I had against them…how can my best friends father always come and see her off while my Mom and Dad are still busy with their daily chores, why does nobody cares to just buy stuff for me and I am just asked once what I bought...after all I am a girl and I need help at times…and I do deserve it isn’t it !!! As years passed and I got into my later stages of life I realized how important it was of what they did in the very beginning…when I needed them the most they were there…naturally without even mentioning that I need them… My dependence on any one for small things ended up…if somebody helped me in things which I couldn’t do/ found difficult to do, it was fine…if nobody is there to help me out, even better coz then I could use all my powers to find ways and means to get it done by nobody else but me!...I guess it always gave me a feeling of accomplishment of doing something all by my own. Life is like that…you learn more when you start learning from your experiences. I have heard this story of a man who is in deep love with a cocoon in his garden, nurtures it constantly with all pride of nature. One fine day when he sees a young moth coming out of the cocoon, he feels empathetic with the troubles ad pain faced by the infant in the new world. To cut short its tough time of pain, the man picks up a scissor and breaks the cocoon to set the young butterfly free from its old shell. However his magnanimity could no longer help the infant, as in the later course of time, it restricted the young month to strengthen its wings. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the moth to get through the tiny opening was the way of forcing fluid from the body of the moth into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. Freedom and flight could only come after the struggle. By depriving the moth of its struggle, he deprived the moth of health and freedom.
Strange yet true, our hardships make us a better creature to survive. The more we confront it and feel the pain, the stronger we become to face the world realities. Saying all that doesn’t means experiencing experiences are the only means of learning. An adage: a man is wise if he learns from his experience; even wiser if he learns from the experiences of others. So if it’s my way your way or no way, important is the experience we carry forward to create a path of possibilities…

Luck By Chance

The topic of destiny to me has been a matter of discussion for quite a long time. If things just happen by a matter of luck, then why do we need to toil hard for something…it’s just a matter of destiny and I’ll get what is written...

I had read a story in my school days by the name ‘The Ant and the Grasshopper’. Ant works hard throughout the springs to enjoy a comfortable winter whereas grasshopper enjoys each and every bit of time loitering around and ends up in difficult situation when winters arise...So, does an Ant enjoys his destiny or is it hard work.

Taking analogy from the story is it destiny or deed which determines our present…how do we draw a thin line between the two, is a question. Also, if everything is predetermined, can we desire to do something beyond our destiny…can we have aspirations and dreams which are beyond what is written!

Offlate a couple of my friends spoke to me about the theory of past karma…As per this theory, clearing past karma by practicing good deed in the present helps us to create a better and a brighter today… I’ve always preferred to live in my present, learn from the past and look to the future. That means I always took the learning from the past, preferred completing it there itself and just move on…move on to me was leaving past where it was and exploring new areas of possibility which were future oriented…it didn’t gave me a brighter today but it never made me regret my past either. And what I always felt was whether by luck, chance or deed that always made me happier. No regrets…no bad thoughts….only bliss…I practiced it at every stage…knowingly, unknowingly by choice or by chance. So if I look back now to my past, clearing my so called past karma thinking that it would really impact my present way of being…well honestly I don’t know how to do that…As always it boils down to generating a lot of questions in my mind which are unanswered.

We always feel lucky if something happens to us naturally with or without turmoil. And if this happening is something which was really awaited…It’s a bonus!!…So how do we create our destiny?

From my experiences so far I believe you get what you truly believe in…it may be pleasure or pain, success or failure, pride or prejudice it’s again a matter of choice. I’ve had the flavor of both the oxymoron at different stages and consequences, again by knowingly or unknowing attracting both of them...so if someone asks me was it deed or destiny I would say deed made the destiny. Taking lessons from the past, joining the dots to the future never comes naturally…atleast not to me…however, it is an interesting phenomena to predict what might be there for you…what you need to do is to read the signs available and take learning’s from there.

Joining the dots of the past experiences, and relating it to my present and future has helped me to create a path for my destiny. I am a strong believer of destiny…However, I feel a very strong contribution of our fate is driven by the path we follow. Our destiny decides our fate; our deed decides the path to the providence. So, if luck just happens by chance, it’s somewhere a reward to the endeavor which has been put at some point of time by no one but me. All is in the present…so live it, feel it and enjoy it coz this will always help you think of a beautiful past and create a brighter future.

My Pursuit of Happiness

Happiness to each of us means the quantum of enjoyment we get by an act...it may be brought by anything...watching rains outside the window, lazing around for long hours, working hard to get a bit of appreciation from somebody who means of lot to us etc...If that is the case why don’t we feel happy all the time...and what is that Pursuit of Happiness we are looking out for...

The quest for personal happiness begins with the individual himself. Many of the unhappiness felt by individuals stem from three major causes: comparison with others, personal images of perfection and an obsession with spotting flaws in one's self.

In a forum I attended a couple of years back, the forum leader spoke about 'Choices'. Now 'choices' here is for something we 'choose to do', immaterialist of what are the consequences it brings to us. A ‘Choice’ comes naturally, indifferentially without biases and without a thought of rightness or wrongness. So what happens to us at any point of time is the choice we make at that point of time in that situation.

Putting the same analogy to our happiness, it’s again the choice which we make in our life. Happiness comes to us naturally. We choose to enjoy a moment, live it to the fullest and feel happy about it...and anything which makes us not so happy is something which makes us 'Learned' and will help us to open new doors of happiness in the near future.

Each one of us have had gone through or going through a bad patch in our lives...and I am nowhere an exception...but when I look back to all the lesser happier phases of my life I feel good about them with the feeling that had they not been there to me, I would have certainly not have had the experience of learning and dealing with the situations better in my present.

Somebody told me it’s always advisable to let off go everything...The question is how... is that feasible, practical or even possible...

The answer what I got was 'YES'...and honestly speaking...practicing it is equally simple too...Again from the analogy of choices you have a choice to stick to the things…be lesser happy about them and mourn; the second one would be to think the learning you got, think had this would have not happened to you would you have been deprived of knowing and finally how did it really impact your belief system of dealing with things if this would have not taken place…and just let it go

In most of the cases that happened to me I came out with the feeling that good it happened to me and now looking at the bigger picture I feel – what’s bad about it…its ok to be OK

My pursuit of happiness lies in experiencing things the way they happen. Accepting them or letting them go is a matter of choice…Its ‘OK’ to be just happy and feel good and keep going with all the experiences… but more important is to look to the Bigger picture of happiness you will experience or are experiencing as a consequence of a happening…

The Lesson of the Moth

I was talking to a moth the other evening.
He was trying to break into an electric light bulb and fry himself on the wire. “Why do you fellows pull this stunt?” I asked him. “Because it is a conventional thing for moths? Or why, if that had been an uncovered candle, instead of an electric light bulb, You would now be a small, unsightly cinder. Have you no sense?” “Plenty of it, he answered, “but at times we get tired of using it. We get bored with the routine and crave beauty and excitement. Fire is beautiful and we know that if we get too close it will kill us, But what does it matter? It is better to be happy for a moment and be burned up with beauty Than to live a long time and be bored all the while. So we wad all our life up into one little roll, And then we shoot the roll. That’s what life is for. It is better to be a part of beauty for one instant And then cease to exist, Than to exist forever and never be a part of beauty. Our attitude toward life is Come easy, go easy. We’re like human beings used to be before they became too civilized to enjoy themselves.” And before I could argue him out of his philosophy, He went and immolated himself on a patented cigar lighter. I do not agree with him. Myself, I would rather have half the happiness And twice the longevity. But at the same time, I wished there was something I wanted As badly as he wanted to fry himself.

- By Don Marquis

Power of the Dream

Each one of us have a hidden potential within, which we experience in different times of our lives...Dont know how many of us actually believe in the power of our dream but trust me I can say that coz I have been offlate experiencing it...

Its an adage that If your intent towards something is really strong the whole universe conspires to ensure that you get it...So lets work on finding that magic spark within and work towards

Deep within each heart

There lies a magic spark

That lights the fire of our imagination

And since the dawn of man

The strenght of just "I can"

Has brought together people of all nations

There’s nothing ordinaryIn the living of each day

There’s a special part

Every one of us will play

Feel the flame forever burn

Teaching lessons we must learn

To bring us closer to the power of the dream

As the world gives us its best

To stand apart from all the rest

It is the power of the dream that brings us here

Your mind will take you far

The rest is just pure heart

You’ll find your fate is all your own creation

Every boy and girl

As they come into this world

They bring the gift of hope and inspiration

Feel the flame forever burn

Teaching lessons we must learn

To bring us closer to the power of the dream

The world unites in hope and peace

We pray that it will always be

There’s so much strength in all of us

Every woman child and man

It’s the moment that you think you can’t

You’ll discover that you can

Feel the flame forever burn

Teaching lessons we must learn

To bring us closer to the power of the dream

The world unites in hope and peace

We pray that it will always be

It is the power of the dream that brings us here

Feel the flame forever burn

Teaching lessons we must learn

To bring us closer to the power of the dream

The world unites in hope and peace

We pray that it will always be

It is the power of the dream that brings us

The power of the dreamThe faith in things unseenThe courage to embrace your fearNo matter where you are

To reach for your own star

To realize the power of the dream

To realize the power of the dream