Can I say 'No' to someone? Will it be okay if I say No...Ohh its rude if I say ‘No’! What will others think if I say No!
Have you ever faced this scenario? Honestly, all of us do it at some point of life or rather let me take the liberty of saying we do it every day, and may be every time. What is the thought process – Does the dilemma of our inner conscience always wins with strong opinions for not supporting ‘No’ as an answer or is it that saying ‘No’ is a taboo that projects a non social behavior. I always had a hard time saying ‘No’ , possibly because in my head the image of ‘Yes’ is better and more convenient while ‘No’ is negative, stubborn and selfish. Yes pulls a nice self image, with a question free zone and makes me look good even though the side effects of saying yes may be questionable. No matter how easy it is to say Yes, hard times demand for hard decisions and when there is no choice you tend to choose the hard option which in my case was saying – NO.
Very well said..
ReplyDeleteThanks Neha :)
ReplyDeleteIndeed I have always faced this problem. But, getting out of local to global problem, I also see it as one of the conflict point between altruism vs evil. Ir-respective to the limits of time-space-ability some people always say No, and even to say NO to them I have to fight long to myself before that, and thereafter keep giving all lame excuses to myself how saying No actually benefited me. And, I think I'm not an exception. I believe everyone must be coming across such situation/people quite often. I don't know which one is right, but that how the life is to me; never get simple answers! hehe...Probably I took your simple argument too seriously and made it complicated.
ReplyDeleteLol!
DeleteAs usual you can blame some of it to our culture too. India comes with a history of tolerance and that makes saying 'No' even harder that it looks. Western countries have a different perspective.