Happiness to each of us means the quantum of enjoyment we get by an act...it may be brought by anything...watching rains outside the window, lazing around for long hours, working hard to get a bit of appreciation from somebody who means of lot to us etc...If that is the case why don’t we feel happy all the time...and what is that Pursuit of Happiness we are looking out for...
The quest for personal happiness begins with the individual himself. Many of the unhappiness felt by individuals stem from three major causes: comparison with others, personal images of perfection and an obsession with spotting flaws in one's self.
In a forum I attended a couple of years back, the forum leader spoke about 'Choices'. Now 'choices' here is for something we 'choose to do', immaterialist of what are the consequences it brings to us. A ‘Choice’ comes naturally, indifferentially without biases and without a thought of rightness or wrongness. So what happens to us at any point of time is the choice we make at that point of time in that situation.
Putting the same analogy to our happiness, it’s again the choice which we make in our life. Happiness comes to us naturally. We choose to enjoy a moment, live it to the fullest and feel happy about it...and anything which makes us not so happy is something which makes us 'Learned' and will help us to open new doors of happiness in the near future.
Each one of us have had gone through or going through a bad patch in our lives...and I am nowhere an exception...but when I look back to all the lesser happier phases of my life I feel good about them with the feeling that had they not been there to me, I would have certainly not have had the experience of learning and dealing with the situations better in my present.
Somebody told me it’s always advisable to let off go everything...The question is how... is that feasible, practical or even possible...
The quest for personal happiness begins with the individual himself. Many of the unhappiness felt by individuals stem from three major causes: comparison with others, personal images of perfection and an obsession with spotting flaws in one's self.
In a forum I attended a couple of years back, the forum leader spoke about 'Choices'. Now 'choices' here is for something we 'choose to do', immaterialist of what are the consequences it brings to us. A ‘Choice’ comes naturally, indifferentially without biases and without a thought of rightness or wrongness. So what happens to us at any point of time is the choice we make at that point of time in that situation.
Putting the same analogy to our happiness, it’s again the choice which we make in our life. Happiness comes to us naturally. We choose to enjoy a moment, live it to the fullest and feel happy about it...and anything which makes us not so happy is something which makes us 'Learned' and will help us to open new doors of happiness in the near future.
Each one of us have had gone through or going through a bad patch in our lives...and I am nowhere an exception...but when I look back to all the lesser happier phases of my life I feel good about them with the feeling that had they not been there to me, I would have certainly not have had the experience of learning and dealing with the situations better in my present.
Somebody told me it’s always advisable to let off go everything...The question is how... is that feasible, practical or even possible...
The answer what I got was 'YES'...and honestly speaking...practicing it is equally simple too...Again from the analogy of choices you have a choice to stick to the things…be lesser happy about them and mourn; the second one would be to think the learning you got, think had this would have not happened to you would you have been deprived of knowing and finally how did it really impact your belief system of dealing with things if this would have not taken place…and just let it go
In most of the cases that happened to me I came out with the feeling that good it happened to me and now looking at the bigger picture I feel – what’s bad about it…its ok to be OK
My pursuit of happiness lies in experiencing things the way they happen. Accepting them or letting them go is a matter of choice…Its ‘OK’ to be just happy and feel good and keep going with all the experiences… but more important is to look to the Bigger picture of happiness you will experience or are experiencing as a consequence of a happening…
